Days, weeks and months can go by and leave us with the eerie feeling that time has melted into oblivion without actually having accomplished much. This may of course be true, but it is unlikely. The danger of this is that it creates enormous pressure within us and fuels the anxiety we may be feeling […]
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You have to Prepare for Change
I have the sublime privilege of working with people who want change and growth. They are ambitious, eager to make a difference and desperate not to lose themselves in the process. More frequently than not, we start our journey without a clear line of sight of how it will go. There is one thing that […]
Be an Askhole
ASK, ASK, ASK THEN ASK SOME MORE! I have gotten most of what I’ve asked for. I’m realising that all too frequently, I am not asking enough and that when I do, I may be setting the bar too low; that I am holding myself back. Have I been disappointed? Sure. Sometime, more frequently than […]
Boundaries are the Creation of the Self
THE ENORMITY OF THE ROLE OF BOUNDARIES IN THE CONTEXT OF SELF-LOVE CANNOT BE UNDERSCORED ENOUGH. As a foundational cornerstone of feeling safe, healthy, and positively regarded in the world around you, boundaries are critical. They are at the core of creating and maintaining healthy relationships. In particular, Self-Love, the relationship with yourself, is almost […]
You Cannot NOT Communicate
A few lifetimes ago I came across NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) It was one of my first blushes with coach training. At that time I had no idea that I would journey into coaching professionally. At the time all I had wanted to achieve was to learn ways to be a better manager, a better […]
10 Ways in which Perfectionism Burn You
Perfectionism is probably the only self-limiting pattern of thinking and belief that is revered and desired. Maybe it’s because of the word itself? Who knows? Anyhow, Perfectionism is perceived as a desirable mindset that leads to perfect results, perfect achievements, perfect relationships, a perfect life. To perfection itself. This cannot be further from the truth. […]
How are your map reading skills?
GPS was a real game-changer for me. Map reading was not a thing I excelled at. On a flat piece of paper, I could tell you where North, South, East, and West is. Off paper, on physical terrain? ….. Now that was a different story altogether! Moving to Johannesburg from Cape Town at the age […]
Forget Passion. Screw Purpose
Anytime anyone asks me what either my purpose or my passion is, the singular experience that sets in for me is brain freeze. Except, it’s not short lived like when you gulp down a freezing cold slushie…this brain freeze morphs into brain fog and it has this unnerving habit of lingering inside of me for […]
Live By Design
I hung out on the lux side of life. But I lived on the proverbial wrong side of the tracks. It was the ‘wrong’ side for the obvious reasons. Life was tougher, and it was a whole lot rougher. All the same, I wanted for nothing and mostly, it was a good life. For me […]
You got ships to Burn? I do.
Once upon a time, long, long ago in a beautiful, far, far away land, a certain Captain Cortés rolled up in a battalion of ships, dropped anchor and set upon said beautiful land with ambitions of conquest. His sailors were tired, hungry and weary from their expedition and Cortés knew that conquest was only possible […]