Alignment is a word that gets thrown around a lot, especially in the self-development world. We talk about being in alignment with our values, our purpose, our truth. It sounds neat and tidy. But in real life, alignment is messy. It’s dynamic. It’s the dance between clarity and confusion, expansion and contraction, doing and being. […]
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Creating Sustainable Rhythms in Life & Work
Balance is a unicorn. Cute idea. But OMG! It’s sooo hard to saddle. Real life is rhythm. Priority, choice, acceptance, letting go, decision, permission, and personal power around time, energy, and focus. Add pleasure and rest. Add awe in the ordinary and the spectacular. That is how we live well. “How we spend our days […]
Masculine and Feminine Energies: Finding Harmony
Spring is peeking through and many of us are arriving with tired bodies and busy minds. Last week we explored rest that fills you up, not just rest that gets you through another day. This week we look at the quiet tug of two inner currents. The part of you that drives, directs, and decides. […]
Embrace Rest as Revolution
As we slide into spring and the last stretch of the year, I am hearing the same refrain everywhere: the tank feels empty, the calendar feels relentless, and our attention is being sliced into tiny pieces. This is exactly why we are focusing on rest and overcoming stress now. Rest is not a reward for […]
The Cost of Over‑functioning: How to Rebalance
In August we worked with anger as clean, clarifying energy. This month we’re using that clarity to meet the habits that keep us in survival mode. First up: over‑functioning. Why this matters Over‑functioning is doing for others what they can do for themselves, taking on more than is sustainable, and solving problems at the cost […]
Anger and Love: Protecting What Matters Most
The Fire Between Anger and Love At first glance, anger and love seem like opposites. One is fiery, the other tender. One disrupts, the other soothes. But if we look closer, they live on the same continuum. Both arise when something deeply matters. Both protect what we care about. When we love — people, values, […]
When Panic and Anger Collide: Untangling “Panger” and Reclaiming Your Power
Most of us never learned to express anger in a healthy way. In fact, many of us rarely even witnessed it being done well. What we often did see — or feel in ourselves — was something Karla McLaren calls panger: a volatile blend of panic and anger. Panic fuels survival-mode reactions: hypervigilance, scanning for danger, bracing for impact. Anger, […]
The Masks We Wear and the Power We Lose
We struggle with the emotion of anger for many reasons. Many of us have suffered at the hands of someone else’s anger, and many of us have hurt others with our own. Either way, anger can feel shameful and taboo. Anger at someone is different from simply feeling anger. Feeling anger is an intimate, internal […]
The Emotion We Were Never Meant to Feel
Most women I work with don’t struggle with anger because they feel too much of it. They struggle because they’ve learned not to feel it at all. Or, more precisely, they’ve learned to evaluate, suppress, dismiss, and rationalise it. Anger becomes something to avoid, not explore. Something shameful. Dangerous. Unbecoming. Especially for women raised to […]
You Can Be Impressive and Still Empty as Hell
“Success is not about how things look to others. It’s about how they feel to you.” – Brianna Wiest This week, we’re pulling back the curtain on a hard truth: you can be impressive and still feel completely hollow inside. You can do all the right things, hit all the right markers, and still feel […]