For a long time, I thought resistance was the thing standing between me and momentum. If I could just get past it, push through it, out-think it, or out-discipline it, then things would move. But working with leaders has changed how I see this. Deeply. Repeatedly. Almost reverently. Resistance isn’t the opposite of momentum.It’s often […]
The day imposter syndrome disappears entirely
may be the day we stop growing
and start merely existing.
Regulation isn’t intellectual.
And it isn’t about control.
It’s about connection.
You may going ‘well duh’. But for me, this was revolutionary!
The nervous system doesn’t speak English… or Afrikaans… nor isiXhosa or isiZulu.
It speaks sensation.
It is felt.
Most of us don’t start the year empty. We start with a whisper of hope. A quiet, persuasive “maybe this is the year”. A tug of desire, barely audible under the weight of duty and doubt. But here’s the thing: A strong start to the year is not about doing everything at once. It’s about building […]
Every Tuesday, I add a new blog. It’s not so much that I’ve run out of words. It’s more that I want to spend time tuning inward to listen. So this is not a blog.It’s a pause.A place to stand still long enough to notice who you’ve become. For the next three newsletters, we are […]
“You do not have to be grateful for the experience to be grateful for who you became because of it.” – Safiyyah There is a quiet revolution that happens when a person learns to love what is. Not the fantasy. Not the future version of themselves they keep postponing their joy for. Not the edited […]
Gratitude is powerful. But let’s be honest. Many of us were trained into gratitude as a kind of performance; a way to seem fine, stay agreeable, and silence the emotional truths that might make others uncomfortable. We learned to use gratitude as a buffer, not a bridge. So instead of gratitude opening our hearts, it […]
When my coach and mentor, Taryn told me that my triggers are my angels, I didn’t have nice words for her. And yet, I have come to learn, and more importantly, to accept and embrace that our triggers are not random emotional explosions. They are not signs that we are failing at emotional maturity. They […]
There is a moment. A tiny pause. A fraction of a second that most of us miss. In that moment lives the difference between a reaction that derails us and a response that restores us. This is the place, that precious space of Power. Reactions are fast. Hot. Automatic. Atomic. They come from the nervous […]
Shame has a way of telling us we are unworthy.Unworthy of love. Unworthy of rest. Unworthy of joy unless it’s been earned through sweat, sacrifice, and perfection. Unworthy of the success we have already achieved. It tells us we’re too much and not enough all at once. It tells us that we can’t want too […]